Beauty is a term which needs a major re-definition, I suppose. It's high time we have to "un-learn, re-learn and re-define" it.
What made me think so? Nothing but whining of my preschooler.
Scene 1: We were walking towards our apartment after picking L from school bus. The worried girl asked me:
"Mama, do you think I have dark circles around my eyes?"
Mom: "What??? dark circle?? How did you learn this? Who said so?"
Girl: "Mr. J (her KG mate). He said it needs to be treated else I won't be pretty."
Mom: "There is nothing around your eyes. You look tired because you did not sleep well. You better not bother at all."
Girl: "But, Mama, J said it's there and it's bad." [He even suggested creams.]
I had tough time convincing my daughter that she just needs to ignore such blabbering.
Scene 2: Another day, walking back to apartment post school session.
Girl: "Mama, I have gaps between my teeth. J said it will not look good on me as I grow up."
Mom: "Come on, it's natural. As your milk teeth fall out and new bunch comes, the gap probably could disappear. Gap is common at this age. There is nothing to be worried about."
Girl: "But, mama, J said so. He said it's bad."
Yet, another struggle for mom to convince daughter that these are not something you should look at the age of 4.
I might sound like a paranoid, conservative mom, but I am not worried if you tag me so. For me, this is NOT something that kids at the age of 4-5 should be discussing at the preschool. There are much more things they have to do, rather than trying to see the world through the eyes of adults.
I would not want to teach my girl about beautifying herself, rather beautifying her deeds, words and being kind and helpful. And not to fall for external beauty, but to have wisdom to know that everyone is beautiful in the way Almighty has created him/her. There is a purpose and wisdom behind every of His creation.
If I ever get a boy (IA), I would never teach him to look at the beauty of a woman's body rather assess her by her kindness, tenderness, boldness, alertness, confidence, determination and many more. A woman is not just a piece of flesh, she is an individual. Whether she looks appealing to your eyes or not, she is what she is.
How do boys get such a detailed feeling of "external beauty" at such an early age? Are TVs, movies and cartoons only to blame for? Aren't we parents play a major role in introducing the real meaning of beauty to our little ones?
What's the whole point of being pretty outside when you’re so ugly inside?
My advice to my daughter would be "Make our inside beautiful, external beauty will follow."
I love below quotes:
“No matter how plain a woman may be, if truth and honesty are written across her face, she will be beautiful.”
― Eleanor Roosevelt
“Beauty shouldn’t be about changing yourself to achieve an ideal or be more socially acceptable. Real beauty, the interesting, truly pleasing kind, is about honoring the beauty within you and without you. It’s about knowing that someone else’s definition of pretty has no hold over you.”
― Golda Poretsky
Joining The Prompt from Sara and Magic Moments from Jaime.